By Hilary Metcalfe
When a friend or family member has a baby, the first thing we want to do is help. We send messages, drop off tiny clothes, ask how the baby is sleeping.
But here’s what often gets missed: How is the mum doing?
In the early weeks of breastfeeding, a new mum is learning everything at once—how to latch, how to keep her baby fed through growth spurts, how to function on almost no sleep. Her body is still healing, her hormones are shifting, and she’s pouring every ounce of energy into this tiny new life.
And yet, she’ll probably tell you she’s fine. Because that’s what mums do.
So if you really want to support a breastfeeding mum, don’t just ask what she needs—anticipate it. Show up in the ways that truly help. Give her the things that remind her she’s cared for, too.
Here’s how to do that, with gifts that make a real difference.
“She kept saying she was fine—but I knew she needed nourishment.”
One friend told me, “Every time I asked what she needed, she said, ‘Oh, I’m fine.’ But I knew she wasn’t drinking enough water, and I knew she wasn’t eating enough. So instead of asking, I just started showing up with warm meals and a tea she could sip one-handed.”
Hydration and nourishment are two of the most overlooked postpartum needs. Breastfeeding pulls water, minerals, and nutrients from the mother’s body, and without proper replenishment, exhaustion can quickly turn into depletion.
💡 How to help: Bring her something to drink that doesn’t just hydrate, but actually restores what’s been lost.
🎁 The best gifts for hydration & nourishment:
✔ The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata – A deeply replenishing, lactation-supporting herbal infusion with moringa, oat straw, and fennel to support hydration, relaxation, and milk supply.
✔ The SABI Mama Infusions Set – A set of teas designed for postpartum support—hydration, stress relief, and energy balance.
✔ The SABI Calming Herbata – A gentle, bedtime infusion with lemon balm and chamomile to help ease stress and promote restful sleep.
The best part? Every time she picks up her cup, she’ll think of you—and feel cared for.
“She was exhausted, so I gave her permission to rest.”
One of the hardest things for a new mum to do? Accept help.
One friend told me, “She was trying to do everything—feed the baby, host visitors, clean the house. So instead of asking what I could do, I told her, ‘Go lie down for 30 minutes, I’ve got this.’”
💡 How to help: Give her permission to take a break, even just for a moment.
🎁 Gifts that encourage rest:
✔ A quiet moment with a warm cup of tea. Brew her a mug of The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata and tell her to sit, sip, and breathe while you take care of something.
✔ A cozy corner for naps. Set her up with a blanket, a pillow, and a warm cup of tea—because even 20 minutes of proper rest can make a difference.
✔ A reminder that she doesn’t have to do it all. Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” say, “I’m bringing dinner tonight. Would you rather pasta or soup?”
Sometimes, the best gift isn’t an object—it’s an act of care that tells her she’s allowed to rest, too.
“She doubted herself, so I reminded her she was doing incredible.”
Breastfeeding is filled with self-doubt.
One friend shared, “She kept questioning herself—was she making enough milk? Was the baby getting enough? I could see the worry in her eyes. So I started telling her, every day, ‘You’re doing an amazing job.’”
💡 How to help: Give her the words she needs to hear—and something to hold onto when you’re not there.
🎁 Gifts that offer encouragement:
✔ A handwritten note tucked inside a box of tea. A simple card that says, “You are doing an incredible job, and I see how much love you pour into this every day.”
✔ A book that reassures her she’s not alone.
✔ The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata—because sometimes, care looks like a warm, nourishing cup in her hands when she needs it most.
Because the Best Support Is Thoughtful, Not Complicated
If you want to support a breastfeeding mum, don’t wait for her to ask for help—because she probably won’t. Instead:
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Drop off a warm meal.
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Refill her tea cup.
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Hold the baby while she showers.
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Send a message that simply says, “You are doing an incredible job.”
Because sometimes, the greatest gift isn’t something wrapped in a box—it’s simply showing up and reminding her that she’s not in this alone.
HORMONAL & PROUD
Created as a brand to help women navigate the toughest moments in pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum — and practically every stage of life –– The SABI is changing the narrative around our hormones from one of taboo, embarrassment, and loneliness to awareness and even, pride. As more than a wellness brand, The SABI offers a carefully-crafted line of products to carry you through your hormonal journey, including rituals, supportive tools, and ancient herbal remedies that have been tested time and time again by women and now come backed by medicine. The SABI is a blend of science and nature conceived by women who have experienced the joys and deep struggles of bringing a child into the world, the pains of a heavy, difficult period, miscarriage, and difficulty conceiving.
We invite you to get to know your body and its cycles better –– to really understand what is going on inside. Learn to use your hormones to your advantage no matter your stage of life, and know that you can support and balance your hormone levels. We are here to help with the information, understanding and natural tools to support your body and the emotional process along with it.
