By Hilary Metcalfe
No one tells you just how much uncertainty comes with breastfeeding.
You sit there, baby latched, wondering: Am I making enough milk? Is my baby full? Is this normal? You Google things at 2 AM, you track feeds, you analyze every cry, trying to decode a language that feels just out of reach.
And in the middle of it all, you wonder: Am I doing this right?
The hardest part of breastfeeding isn’t just the physical demands—it’s the mental load, the self-doubt, the feeling that you’re the only one who doesn’t have it all figured out.
That’s why the most powerful thing you can give a breastfeeding mum isn’t advice or instructions. It’s reassurance. It’s encouragement. It’s a reminder that she is already doing an incredible job.
At The SABI, Anna and I created our products with this in mind—not just to support lactation, but to remind mums that their well-being matters too. Because the best gifts aren’t just useful; they’re the ones that say:
"I see you. You are doing amazing. And you deserve care too."
The Overlooked Needs of a Breastfeeding Mum
💡 Breastfeeding mums often hear, “The baby looks great!” but rarely, “How are you feeling?”
💡 Postpartum depletion is real—breastfeeding pulls hydration, nutrients, and energy from the mother’s body to nourish the baby.
💡 The mental load of feeding—tracking times, positions, growth, and milk supply—can be as exhausting as the physical demands.
So if you’re looking for a way to support a breastfeeding mum, think beyond baby gifts. Find something that makes her feel seen, supported, and nourished.
1. A Daily Ritual That Replenishes & Reassures
There’s something about having a small daily ritual that’s just for you—something that reminds you to pause, breathe, and take a moment for yourself.
For me, that moment was a cup of tea in my hands.
That’s why we developed The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata—not just as a lactation tea, but as a small, daily act of nourishment for mums who give so much of themselves.
It’s filled with:
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Oat straw & holy basil, which naturally help calm the nervous system and reduce stress.
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Moringa, packed with iron and calcium, to support postpartum energy and recovery.
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Fennel & cinnamon, which help with digestion and blood sugar balance, so mums don’t experience the energy crashes that make exhaustion worse.
Pair it with The SABI Calming Herbata—a gentle, sleep-supporting infusion designed to bring deep rest to a restless mind.
Because sometimes, a warm cup of tea is more than just tea—it’s a moment of reassurance, a deep breath, a reminder that she’s doing enough.
2. A Thoughtful Note or Book That Speaks to Her Heart
Breastfeeding can feel isolating—hours spent feeding in the middle of the night, endless cycles of giving without pause. In those moments, the right words can change everything.
📖 “Motherhood: A Manifesto” by Eliane Glaser – A powerful, validating read on why mums are expected to give endlessly—and how we can reclaim our own needs.
📖 “The Fourth Trimester” by Kimberly Ann Johnson – A gentle, wise book on postpartum healing, self-care, and the importance of being nurtured too.
📖 “You Are a F*ing Awesome Mom” by Leslie Anne Bruce** – A reminder that mums don’t have to be perfect—they just have to be present.
Or, even simpler: A handwritten note.
Something that says:
"I see how much you’re doing. You are giving so much love, and your baby feels it. You are doing an incredible job."
Because sometimes, the simplest words carry the most weight.
3. A Comfort Gift That Feels Like a Hug
There were nights I sat there feeding, craving comfort—not just warmth, but something grounding, something that made me feel held.
Some of the things that made the biggest difference for me:
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A weighted heat pack on my shoulders, easing the tension from hours of feeding.
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A silk eye mask, because even 30 minutes of deep rest felt like a gift.
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A soft, oversized robe, to wrap myself in after long feeds.
If you’re looking for something that truly feels like a hug in gift form, these are some of my favourites:
✔ Blästa Henriët Wheat Bag – A natural, weighted heat pack that relieves postpartum aches and encourages deep relaxation.
✔ Nourish London Magnesium Body Butter – A deeply soothing magnesium lotion that helps muscles relax and promotes restful sleep.
✔ Hush Silk Eye Mask – A soft, light-blocking eye mask for daytime naps and undisturbed rest.
Because the greatest gift you can give a mum isn’t more to do—it’s a moment of comfort, a moment of relief, a moment that’s just for her.
Because She Deserves to Feel Supported, Too
When you’re breastfeeding, it’s easy to feel like you’re giving and giving, with nothing coming back.
The best gifts aren’t about helping her be more productive—they’re about reminding her that she deserves to receive, too.
So if you know a breastfeeding mum who’s doing everything she can, who’s questioning if she’s doing enough, who’s pouring every bit of love into her baby—tell her.
Bring her tea that replenishes. A book that reassures. A note that reminds her:
"You are doing amazing. You are more than enough. And you deserve to be cared for, too."
Because sometimes, a little encouragement is the thing that makes all the difference.
HORMONAL & PROUD
Created as a brand to help women navigate the toughest moments in pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum — and practically every stage of life –– The SABI is changing the narrative around our hormones from one of taboo, embarrassment, and loneliness to awareness and even, pride. As more than a wellness brand, The SABI offers a carefully-crafted line of products to carry you through your hormonal journey, including rituals, supportive tools, and ancient herbal remedies that have been tested time and time again by women and now come backed by medicine. The SABI is a blend of science and nature conceived by women who have experienced the joys and deep struggles of bringing a child into the world, the pains of a heavy, difficult period, miscarriage, and difficulty conceiving.
We invite you to get to know your body and its cycles better –– to really understand what is going on inside. Learn to use your hormones to your advantage no matter your stage of life, and know that you can support and balance your hormone levels. We are here to help with the information, understanding and natural tools to support your body and the emotional process along with it.
