By Hilary Metcalfe
I’ll never forget the moment my partner looked at me during a late-night feed and said, “I wish I knew how to help more.”
I was sitting there, exhausted, my body aching, my mind clouded with sleep deprivation. I didn’t have the energy to tell them what I needed—I barely knew myself. I just wanted to feel less alone, less overwhelmed, less like everything rested on my shoulders.
And the truth is, partners want to help. They want to show up. But sometimes, they don’t know how—especially when so much of breastfeeding feels like something only a mother can do.
That’s why I love seeing partners take the initiative—looking for ways to ease the load, bring comfort, and make a breastfeeding mum feel seen and supported.
So I reached out to some of the most thoughtful partners I know—ones who have been through the newborn days, watched their loved ones breastfeed through exhaustion, and figured out what truly makes a difference.
These aren’t just gifts—they’re acts of care, of love, of saying, ‘I see you, and I appreciate everything you’re doing.’
“She kept forgetting to drink water, so I found a way to make it easier.”
Every breastfeeding mum knows the relentless thirst that comes with feeding—yet somehow, staying hydrated still feels impossible. Between holding the baby, managing endless to-dos, and barely having a free hand, drinking enough water becomes an afterthought.
One partner shared, “She’d get up from the couch after feeding and realise she hadn’t had a sip of water in hours. So I started bringing her tea instead—something warm, soothing, and actually nourishing.”
💡 What actually helps: Hydration that doesn’t just quench thirst but also replenishes minerals, supports milk supply, and nourishes the body.
🎁 The best hydration gifts for breastfeeding mums:
✔ The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata – A deeply nourishing, lactation-supporting infusion packed with mineral-rich moringa, calming oat straw, and fennel to aid digestion and milk production.
✔ The SABI Mama Infusions Set – A selection of herbal blends to support different postpartum needs—hydration, stress relief, and energy balance.
✔ The SABI Calming Herbata – A gentle, sleep-supporting tea with lemon balm and chamomile, designed to help mums fully relax between feeds.
“She was always exhausted, so I helped her create a moment of calm.”
Breastfeeding is demanding—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. One partner told me, “She never had a moment to herself. Even when she wasn’t feeding, she was thinking about the next feed, or the last one, or whether the baby was getting enough milk.”
He realised that while he couldn’t take over breastfeeding, he could create a ritual that helped her unwind.
💡 What actually helps: Encouraging small, daily moments of calm—even just five minutes to sit with a warm cup of tea and breathe.
🎁 The best way to help her slow down:
✔ The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata – A comforting, warming tea that supports relaxation and milk production.
✔ The SABI Calming Herbata – A soothing infusion designed to help ease stress and promote restful sleep.
✔ The SABI Mama Infusions Set – Because different days call for different kinds of support.
“She doubted herself constantly, so I made sure she knew she was doing amazing.”
One partner told me, “She questioned herself all the time—was the baby getting enough milk? Was she doing it right? I started telling her, every day, that she was doing an incredible job. That she was enough.”
Breastfeeding can feel like trial and error, like you’re constantly guessing, like there’s always something new to figure out. And that’s why reassurance is one of the greatest gifts you can give.
💡 What actually helps: Words of encouragement, daily reminders, and small gestures that say, “You are doing more than enough.”
🎁 A gift that offers comfort & confidence:
✔ A handwritten note with a cup of tea.
✔ A quiet moment, without interruptions, where she can just sit and breathe.
✔ The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata—because nourishing her is another way to say, “I see you, and I appreciate you.”
Because Supporting a Breastfeeding Mum Isn’t About Doing More—It’s About Helping Her Feel Less Alone
Partners often ask, “How can I help?”
The answer isn’t always grand gestures or complicated plans. It’s the small, consistent things:
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Refilling her tea cup before she even asks.
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Sitting with her during a feed, just so she doesn’t feel alone.
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Reassuring her, every day, that she’s doing an incredible job.
If you want to give a breastfeeding mum something meaningful, start here. Make sure she’s hydrated, make sure she feels supported, make sure she knows she’s seen, valued, and more than enough.
Because sometimes, the best gift isn’t a thing—it’s simply knowing she’s not in this alone.
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