Dear new mum,
Right now, you might feel like you’re living in a haze—one where time blurs between feeds, exhaustion lingers no matter how much sleep you manage to steal, and your body no longer feels like your own.
You love your baby more than anything, but that doesn’t make the adjustment any easier. There’s a version of yourself that you’re still grieving—the one who had more freedom, more energy, more control. And yet, in the midst of it all, you are becoming someone new.
I know because I’ve been there. When I was in the depths of postpartum, I lost myself before I found myself again. It took time. It took care. And most of all, it took the reassurance that I wasn’t failing just because it felt hard.
So, this is my letter to you—the words I wish someone had whispered to me when I needed them most.
1. You Are Not Failing—You Are Adjusting
There’s this myth that mothers should instinctively know exactly what to do—that breastfeeding should come naturally, that exhaustion should be brushed aside, that every moment should be filled with gratitude.
But here’s the truth: You are not failing. You are adjusting.
Your body has gone through one of the most intense transformations it will ever experience. Your emotions are realigning in ways you never expected. Of course, this is hard. Of course, this feels overwhelming. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong—it means you’re in the process of learning, growing, becoming.
2. You Deserve as Much Care as Your Baby
Mothers are told to prioritise their baby’s needs above all else. But what if I told you that your well-being is just as important?
When you drink enough water, eat nourishing food, and take even five minutes for yourself, you’re not being selfish—you’re giving your baby the best version of you. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
This is why small acts of self-care matter—a warm cup of The SABI Breastfeeding Herbata to restore your minerals, a quick face mist to refresh your tired skin, a moment to close your eyes and breathe deeply before the next feed.
3. This Won’t Last Forever, Even If It Feels Like It Will
I know it’s hard to believe, but this exhaustion will pass. The feeds will space out, your body will feel like your own again, and you will start to recognise yourself in the mirror—not just as "mum," but as you.
One day, you’ll realise that the things that once felt impossible—getting through the night, soothing the cries, balancing it all—have become second nature.
For now, just take it moment by moment. Not every day has to be perfect. Some days, survival is enough.
4. Let People Take Care of You Too
You weren’t meant to do this alone. If someone offers to bring food, say yes. If your partner, friend, or parent asks how they can help, tell them. If you need a break, a cry, or just a moment to be by yourself, don’t apologise for it.
Let people give back to you, the way you so selflessly give to your baby.
5. You Are Doing Better Than You Think
If I could reach through this screen and look you in the eyes, I’d tell you this:
You are doing better than you think. Even on the days when everything feels messy and exhausting and overwhelming—you are still showing up. And that is enough.
Because your baby doesn’t need perfection. Your baby just needs you.
And one day, you’ll look back on this season and realise that even though it was hard, even though you sometimes doubted yourself, you were stronger than you ever knew.
Take This as a Gift
If nothing else, let this letter be a gift—the reassurance you may not have heard enough, the reminder that you deserve care too, the permission to be gentle with yourself.
And if no one else tells you today:
You are loved. You are doing an incredible job. You are enough.
A Moment of Care, Just for You
At The SABI, we created The Breastfeeding Herbata as more than just a tea. It’s a small ritual, a moment of stillness, a gentle way to care for yourself when everything else feels overwhelming.
So, if you do one thing today, let it be this: Make a cup of tea. Sit for a moment. Let yourself be cared for.
Because you deserve that much—and so much more.
HORMONAL & PROUD
Created as a brand to help women navigate the toughest moments in pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum — and practically every stage of life –– The SABI is changing the narrative around our hormones from one of taboo, embarrassment, and loneliness to awareness and even, pride. As more than a wellness brand, The SABI offers a carefully-crafted line of products to carry you through your hormonal journey, including rituals, supportive tools, and ancient herbal remedies that have been tested time and time again by women and now come backed by medicine. The SABI is a blend of science and nature conceived by women who have experienced the joys and deep struggles of bringing a child into the world, the pains of a heavy, difficult period, miscarriage, and difficulty conceiving.
We invite you to get to know your body and its cycles better –– to really understand what is going on inside. Learn to use your hormones to your advantage no matter your stage of life, and know that you can support and balance your hormone levels. We are here to help with the information, understanding and natural tools to support your body and the emotional process along with it.
